#MOMPRENEURSHIP with Odalys Q Writer- PINNED Podcast: Episode 51

Being a working mom is very demanding, some have partners some of \ do not which can make things difficult, but if you find your community and resources you'll be on the way to being a #mompreneur ? This week I speak with Odalys Quevedo the founding Mother of Virtual Mom Collective, Board Member of the Women for Success Nonprofit, Co-Owner of Art Spark Design, and Mom Boss!

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About  Odalys
Odalys Quevedo is a wife and mother of 2, living in Miami, FL. As one of the Founding Mothers of Virtual Mom Collective (VMC), she empowers moms and women at home, in business, and beyond during #thisnewnormal. She also sits on the Board of the Women for Success Nonprofit working to create generational change and helping women define success on their own terms. She's also a branded copywriter and online written content expert. As Co-Owner of Art Spark Design, she has helped ignite countless small businesses for online success. Connect with her on Instagram at @odalysqwriter!

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Miss Pinup Miami: 0:04

Good day and welcome back to the pimp podcast where we talk about modern topics with vintage fullier. I'm your host, Pinup Miami. And I want to say if it is your first time listening, I hope you stick around. And if you're a returning listener, I really want to say thank you. Thank you so much. If you heard my last episode, you truly you guys mean the world to me. And I appreciate the support and everything. And as the world keeps opening up, I'm hoping to have more events to travel to meet some of you more Zoo locations for pennants at the zoo. I'm just so excited for what the future holds. And you know, nothing can be as worse as last year. So and I know a lot of us have like different lifestyles. So today. Oh, before I get started, make sure to follow the pin podcast on Instagram at the pin podcast official. And if you ever have any questions or ideas for the show, make sure to text me at 183348 pin up. It goes directly to me. I can answer any questions podcast related pinup related life related. I'm not a psychic. So no psychics. But today I have a very special guest. She was actually the reason why I started my YouTube, I had the courage to start my YouTube channel. She is a beautiful person inside and out. I met her through the blogger union here in South Florida. If you guys are following me, I was really happy that I went beauty blogger of 2019 there was done for 2020. So I'm gonna officially say that I am also the blogger of 2020. Just cuz and so it is my pleasure to introduce a Dallas she is the founding mother of the virtual mom collective. She's a board member of the women for success nonprofit, and co owner of art spark design and a mom boss. So Oh, Dad, it's it's such a pleasure to have you. Welcome.

Odalys: 2:06

Thank you. I'm so happy to be here. I want to say since we're starting recording, I do have the two kids at home. My husband's watching them. So I apologize for any background noise you may hear at any point.

Miss Pinup Miami: 2:20

Well, that's the point. This conversation even this episode is called hashtag mom. I can't even pronounce it. But my partnership, because I'm not a mom. I mean, I'm a dog, Mom, but having children is different, and you're raising another life. So that's why I wanted to I'm so excited to have you because you're bringing a different aspect to like being an entrepreneur, but also a mom has a big duty. I mean, big job. So, you know. So tell us a little bit about you. Before we

Odalys: 2:51

Okay, so I Gosh, hold on anybody take a deep breath. Okay, so I do a lot. Um, I am Oh, Dallas gevey though, and I have been blogging for a while. As a Dallas q writer, I am currently on a hiatus, a two year hiatus actually, from the blog life, but I will be restarting it soon. But that's how we met. I want to start there, right where you and I met, right? Because that's where my blogging journey actually began. That was probably my like, third or fourth, um, blogger event that I went to. And I was like, I lost a little puppy at that point. Not really sure what I was gonna do with my life. I had finished my master's degree. I'm pretty pretty soon before that meetup and so I realized that psychology even though I love doing therapy with my clients was not going to be a very good option for me, in terms of a career because when I started working would be when kids would be out of school. Because I was working a lot with children. Um, I would see adults as well for psychotherapy, but it was, it was mostly kids and I would see them from three to sometimes six or seven in the evening, I would see clients. Um, so I thought to myself, wow, seven o'clock is usually a child's bedtime. So I'm not going to be able to see my daughter. Um, so I was thinking, what could I do? What could I do? I spent a couple years blogging thinking, um, what what's a good career that I would love and also, I would set a good example for my daughter, um, that I pursued a career that I love, but I wasn't really sure. And then at a blogger event, I remember Joanna, she was amazing. She saw how I was like, kind of lost and she said, You You have to take your skills and your talents. And you have to use that to kind of create a job that you love. And I thought, well, I love writing. I've loved it since I was in third grade, I won like a writing competition in my class, I got best essays. So I was like, you know, I never really want anything after that. But that was like my big, your highlight. That was my big win, right? In terms of writing. So, um, I have put it aside for a long time because I was doing psychology and I even got the master. So, um, yeah, I am like, you know what, let me go back to that love that I had back in third grade for writing. And I always wrote like, essays that and I love them, like, I put my everything into writing. So that's when I decided, Okay, let me try writing for clients. And that's how I started my career as a copywriter. I yeah, I was like, you know, what, I haven't written for myself all this time. Let me try writing for other people. And I found that it is so much easier to, to talk about other people and make them sound amazing. But it's hard for us to do it for ourselves, right? Yes. Yeah. So. So now I've been building up the confidence slowly, and I'm going to be writing a book soon. I already started interviewing boss moms. And yeah, I'm interviewing boss, moms, I only have one interview up, but I have another one I'm working on. And I'm gonna like, you know, reintroduce the mom boss series on my blog, which is Oh, Dallas, q writer calm. So that's something big that I'm working on this year that I find that no matter how much experience I get, and how much of a badass I actually am, I still get imposter syndrome. Right? So that is, right, right. Like, I know, you, Jennifer. I know. So you're like the most modest person. And that's part of what I love about you. So I know that imposter syndrome hits hard because we're very similar with that. We're just very humble. So yeah, um, so yeah, so I struggle with that. But I've gotten to the point where like, Hey, I'm owning that I'm a badass, and I'm gonna write this book, and it's gonna happen. And part of what motivates me is my kids. Um, yeah, they. When my daughter was born, I was like, man, I have to be, like, set an example of what a strong woman is like. And so that's why I'm helping other women also succeed in business. with women for success, give me one second. Sorry. So um, so yeah, with women for success, nonprofit, we, we basically provide workshops, ie mentorship,

Miss Pinup Miami: 8:12

grants, things like that for women in business to succeed. And I know you, we invited you to an event and amazing group of women there. And it's all types of women in different industries. And they're really all about like, they don't stay to themselves. Like they really are talking to each other up. I felt so welcome, like people were talking to me. Or maybe they see me what somebody there, listened to my podcast and knew who I was from my podcast, that I forgot her name, but that was pretty cool.

Odalys: 8:44

Yeah, yeah. See, they're all and just surrounding yourself with these strong badass women. Yeah, that was like one of the first steps for me to get into my whole career phase was to surround myself with people that are as motivated to succeed, whether it's in blogging, or business or whatever it is, just surrounding yourself with those people that have that same drive and the same passion. And so that's what women for successes. We're, we're not just a nonprofit, or a community as well. So we're on Instagram, we have events, monthly webinars, we have a huge conference always in May. So you know, I hope I helped put all that together. I do their website, because that's what I do with my husband at artsmark design. My husband's the web designer,

Miss Pinup Miami: 9:37

together,

Odalys: 9:38

right, it all just like comes full circle. So he does the websites and I do the copy. And we work as a team. And then the pandemic hit. What was the pen? Sorry, I know it's your podcast, but what was the pandemic like for you when it hit?

Miss Pinup Miami: 9:57

It just stopped everything that I ever did. Was it events, so I had no events, um, it was just devastating personally, um, a lot of things changed in my life, I ended up getting a new job, I ended up having to change the way I saw things. So like, since I was always in in live events, I had to go more virtual, which led me to this podcast. And so it's just trying to adapt.

Odalys: 10:25

Exactly. Oh, my gosh, that is exactly the experience that I had when we started the VMC. My friends in East Castro, we had we had connected a few months before because I had interviewed her for my mom boss series on my blog. And so we were texting back and forth talking. Sorry, not texting, Facebook messaging,

Miss Pinup Miami: 10:51

texts anymore. Right Facebook messaging, because that's like the thing now. So fading into DMS on Instagram.

Odalys: 11:00

Exactly. So, um, she slid into my DMS and was like, hey, I want to talk to you. So we got on a phone call. And she's like, Look, I have this awesome idea about a mom community, we're gonna be isolated, we're not going to be able to get together with our friends for playdates or for brunches, mom's love to brunch. So she was feeling that isolation. Um, and I was too, we were all scared. We didn't know what was going to happen. People were getting sick. It was it was just an awful time of uncertainty. And like you said, we had to adapt. Somehow we had to get that mommy time, and that interaction with other moms in some way. So that's why we started we got together, we started the virtual mom collective. And it's a community that was started during the pandemic. But it extends beyond that. Our mission is to empower and uplift the working and stay at home mom during hashtag this new normal, because no matter how back to normal things get we still have been impacted right by 2020. And everything that happened. So we know how important creating a community is, but also having virtual access to that social interaction.

Miss Pinup Miami: 12:24

You saw because people like even myself, when you go somewhere, it's like, yes, I'm vaccinated. Do I wear a mask? If people are not wearing? It's like that confusion state. I feel like we're all in that. It's like, what is the right thing to do?

Odalys: 12:38

Some, huh? And it also helps to get to know people outside of your immediate circle, right? Yes, a lot of times we we like meet someone and they're like, Oh, yeah, I know. so and so. And there's like three degrees of separation, right? That the degrees of separation that they talk about. But with virtual monk collective, we've made connections with women in London, England, we've made connections with Africa. Someone lives in Africa. I think it was Morocco. Um, yeah. So we've had moms from all over the world that have met us through Instagram, social media channels, we talk on a Facebook group that we have for virtual non collective so

Miss Pinup Miami: 13:27

there's no way to say yeah, no, I know, that is the virtual mom collective. But one of the first questions I asked was like, Can I come up? I'm not a mom. And it was yes. And I was very welcomed. I haven't gone yet. attended. But I, every time I see your events, and I was like, I want to go and then I know that I just wanted to put that out there because of the sounds so interesting. You could always learn and, you know, that was my first question. I asked whoever DM me the first time I was like, can I go? I'm not a mom.

Odalys: 13:56

Yeah, of course, our events are open to everybody. It's open to we have a thing that we say Denise and I it's open to moms moms to be and supporters of moms. So yeah, so anyone who wants to come um, and just like me, other women that are just badass cuz we have a we have a really big supporter Lauren Marcano of women for success. She's the founder. She's one of our biggest supporters of virtual mom collective. She's not the traditional mom. She's a business mom. So she has Oh, what's the difference? Okay, the differences no dirty diapers. The hours are about the same. Because I know that starting out my business I spent a lot of late nights so I imagine I'm my business moms also have to put in those long hours. So um, yeah. It's, it's still I feel like it's just as rewarding though and in different ways. But yeah, anyone, anyone who's a mom is welcome and supporters of moms and just anyone who wants to come and hang out with some cool women is welcome at the VMC.

Miss Pinup Miami: 15:19

So what would you consider like the hashtag mompreneur? Like,

Odalys: 15:25

what does being a mompreneur mean? Yeah, that is a great question. Okay. So it means wearing a lot of hats to me. Um, you wear the mom hat when you're with the kids. And sometimes you wear the business hat when you're in business. And then there are times where you have to wear the business and mom hat at the same time. What does that mean? Like, I'll be working on something for a client. And then all of a sudden, my, my husband calls me Hey, where's the this or that? Because he watches the kids while I work. We're super like, lucky that we were able to take shifts during the pandemic working. But anyway, he'll call me Hey, where's this? Oh, yeah, it's over here. Oh, I can't find it. Okay, give me a sec. I finish up what I'm doing on the computer. I go, I look for the thing. I hand it to him. And like that, that's that's mompreneur life. It's, it's all about balancing and also being able to merge those two roles when necessary. So yeah, the the job of a mompreneur is just this mix of every, every single time that

Miss Pinup Miami: 16:44

I see a few people like a job that I've had that leg, they schedule everything around their child as well. So they make sure that when they get a new job, or they talk to their job, that they have to drop off their kids at daycare, if they're not lucky to work at home, and then like during their lunch break, they like go and do something with their child, and then they come back and they do their you know, they work a schedule out. And how does it make you feel about like, jobs being, you know, lenient towards that? Is that something because I don't know, I'm, I've never been a mom, and I've never had that situation. But have you ever come into a situation where like, jobs are not like, respectful of like the mom roll, if that makes sense. You know,

Odalys: 17:27

I'm very lucky that I started my mom her newer journey, right when I had my daughter's, so I didn't have to balance a regular nine to five and having the kids. But I will tell you from Denise's perspective, from the speakers that we've had at our monthly webinars, in the virtual mom collective, it is very tough, it is very tough, having to schedule, um, for example, a doctor's appointment for your child, you have to schedule it ahead of time, if they get sick, you have to miss a day at work, you have no other choice, right. So, um, some employers, some employers are more understanding than others. But a lot of moms have, have had a very, very difficult time at work and have had to leave their jobs. I was reading an article the other day that said that, um, the percentage of women that have had to leave the workforce, since like, in 2020, has been like 70%, I could be misquoting I'm really bad with percentages. But an extremely high amount of women have had to leave their job to take care of their kids during the pandemic. And it is, they believe it's going to set women back in the workforce, especially like, moms, also, it's gonna set us back like 10 years. So we're not going to get our numbers back for 10, whole years, because women had to leave their jobs. And sometimes employers weren't understanding of situations. So, you know, it's different reasons, but mostly, it's childcare that women have had to leave. And men don't see that same. Um, we're not seeing those numbers with men. So a lot of responsibility falls on the moms for childcare. And a lot of them have had to leave the workforce to take care of their kids during the pandemic, and it's, it's not foreseen that they're going to come back anytime soon, because we're still not back to, quote unquote, normal, right? And we don't know when everything's gonna get back to normal. The other big issue is in the United States, women don't get as much as much maternity leave as they do in other countries, where the lowest amount of maternity leave. So all these issues are what moms have

Miss Pinup Miami: 20:06

to deal with. What's the average maternity leave?

Odalys: 20:09

I believe it's about three months. But in other countries, even fathers get eight months. So like, even fathers, yes, even fathers and we don't have any paternity leave at all. In our country. Some companies are more progressive, and they do give time to fathers for paternity leave. But yeah, our country doesn't, does not accustomed to having that. So I can say from personal experience from having my daughter, if I hadn't had my husband home, those first two or three months. And in my daughter's case, I think we were five months he had, that he was like working from home and helping with the baby. I don't know what I would have done, it would have been so much harder. So imagine moms who do it on their own. Without partners, they need especially flexible work schedules. And that's not taken into consideration when you first apply for a job. Like you could say, Hey, I have a kid. And that's my priority. And these are my hours, a lot of times it ends up that employers don't like it. So they either let you go, or they make the work conditions so difficult that you have to leave.

Miss Pinup Miami: 21:28

And I think they do the second one because I think it's illegal to just fire someone because you're pregnant. So they it's like with workman's comp, because they don't want the employee anymore. They make their life difficult. They either give them a task day or Hey, and get annoyed and then leave on their own. Because, you know, people try to cheat the system instead of doing the right thing.

Odalys: 21:51

So sad. Yeah, yeah, it said the way they work around, it's true. Like, before I had my kids, I had a situation at a job like that, where, um, things were a little tougher at the company, something big happened. So then they switched me to a different position that I just did not like. So I ended up leaving. And yeah, it happens. It happens with with people who don't have children, and people will do and it stinks because I feel like I think that's another thing like the VMC advocates for is inclusivity in business and just like Ethical Treatment of, of women and moms in in the business, we have a lot of partners that the virtual mom collective, who are minority, female business owners, and we're, we're so happy to see, and we support it. 100% Um, we have just such a diverse community. And that's what we want to see in the workforce. And we're one of the biggest advocates like we advocate so much, especially Denise is so passionate. She is so passionate about moms getting maternity leave and us getting more, more visibility and the equal treatment in the workforce for moms. So that's, that's another thing that we really stand for.

Miss Pinup Miami: 23:20

So you talked a lot about the virtual mom collective. But how did you get started in the women? Um, oh my gosh. No women for success, not women for success nonprofit, okay. Well, if you're a brain fart down like

Odalys: 23:37

it's okay. here's here's the dish, right? Oh, no, I was part of an awesome community called Lesko. malladus and I met a friend list. I love that name. Lascaux Yes, it's awesome. It's a good community. I recommend people look into it. Um, it's called Lesko monitors, and it's all just women usually in the creative field, but they welcome anyone into the community. And so, I had recently left the community, um, you know, financial reasons. So, uh, I left and so I was looking for something to like, keep interacting with women and helping them and so Liz, she she told me about Lauren Marsa Cano and said, Hey, Lauren is starting a nonprofit and this was back before women for success had been I

Miss Pinup Miami: 24:29

don't know who Lauren is. Can you just give a little bio?

Odalys: 24:32

Oh my gosh, okay. Yeah, of course. Laura and Martha Cano. She is a business attorney in Miami and she is one of the partners. Yes, one of the partners of the law firm, Martha Cano, and Leyva. Her and her friend from graduate school, got together and made a law firm and she is also Lauren is also called called the networking map. Because she is amazing at networking and she has all the best tips for networking. So she wears those two hats is like business coach, a networking coach and also lawyer oh and nonprofit founder now. So she she wears those three hats if we're talking about the hats, right? She is so yeah, she was starting it and having an event close to my house. So I was like, Alright, fine, I'll I'll walk over there, see what all this is about. And she told, she told me like, you know, we're just trying to encourage women and we get together once a month, and we do this and that. And, and the main, the heart behind it was to help women in business define success on their own terms. So that, right, and that's something that really resonated with me because I had started copywriting I would say, probably a year prior to really, I had heard of her through the Lesko managers community, but never really interacted with Lauren. Um, so I feel like I met her at just the right time in my business where I was ready to start helping other women also enter the entrepreneur field. And so we I was I thought about it for about a few days, because, you know, I was I was just like grieving the loss of not being part of Lesko modise anymore. And, um, I was kind of like, in this weird phase like, with, with my kids, and I don't know, I just wasn't really digging it at first, like, I don't know if this is for me. But then, um, Lauren would like, she texted me and she's like, come on queen. Like, I really want you to be part of this community. And so I was like, I don't know, if I have enough to offer and she's like, you wouldn't, I wouldn't have invited you. If you didn't have enough to offer. So I was like, Okay, I like her attitude. I like her positivity. And that's what women in business need is like, a leg up. So ever since then, I I've just been helping women kind of see the potential they have, and helping them. Um, like, help bring them up and see how much value they can actually bring, and that their business can bring to the world. So it's, it's really like changed my perspective, a lot. Being becoming part of women for success, helping other women rise with me, right? It's not, you don't have to do it alone. And that's part of what I love about women for success is that we're just a big community and we help bring each other up.

Miss Pinup Miami: 27:56

Well, even when I was like, Oh, my gosh, I know that for my last job. My viewers have been following a little bit of my journey slowly opening up. I'm like, I even tried to get you a copy like gig at my pillow job. But, I mean, just because I know that they pay and they're good. But I was then I was like, I know that you have connections and stuff. I was like, I need I asked you for advice about getting a new job. And I took everything you said into heart because, you know, you are successful in my eyes, you know, so I was like, I need to listen to this girl. So you helped me like figure out like things that had to do differently to like, get jobs and look other places, you know. So I really appreciate that. And I just want you to know, because that's important to like my journey.

Odalys: 28:47

Oh my god, that means so much to me. And I have to say you've really influenced my fashion sense. Like, I love the retro looks now you really influenced my eyeliner, and, and just just your confidence, like it really impacted me as well. And that's something I love that I love that we've both like rubbed off on each other in such awesome ways. And I feel like that's what we really need as a friendship. I remember a few years ago, I did an Instagram post where I posted a picture of you and I and I was like surround yourself with people who feel like sunshine. And that's you. Oh, that is you? So I'm so happy The feeling is mutual? Yes. Um, yeah. And I'm so happy you were able to get a job and what you love because a lot of times when we're starting out in a new career field or we start out a new business, we think oh, I don't have the qualifications. I don't have the degree that I need. But you know what, you have the life experience. You have the life experience, you have the drive and you you have to have had some form of knowledge to even consider like I could maybe Do this. And yes, you can. I want to just tell everybody listening today. Yes, you can,

Miss Pinup Miami: 30:06

you could do it and if you're not happy somewhere, okay, one thing, I'm just gonna put it out there to everyone to know, I know a lot of us now just scroll on tik tok. And we see people on there saying, I hate my job, I'm disrespected, I'm just gonna leave and go, well, the reality is, I can't just like leave my job because I need to pay bills, I need to pay things, you know, and I, and there's people that come up to me, and they're like, I hate my job. I'm like, What are you doing something about it, because that's what I wasn't doing. And then I did do it. And I said, oh, I've been here for so long, I'm not going to leave it. Like I'm already comfortable. Like, I could take time off when I want, I could do whatever. But emotionally, I was just not there because of the whole, like, mental issue mental, like, harassment I was getting. So I said to myself, you know, I want to take my own advice, and I'm gonna apply, like, if I find something, I find something. Luckily, I have a job. So I mean, I'm not happy in it. But I'm not gonna jump at something that's like, below everything I do or not with my lifestyle, or what I want to do. So it's just like I told I said, in my last episode, I applied to 198 jobs. So, you know, and it was mutually either they wanted me and I didn't, or Yes or No, it didn't work out, or, you know, you never know. And I know that this job is not gonna be my life goal. But it's on to the next journey that I have. And, you know, I've mentioned it, I would love to have my own boutique one day and my own business, but it all takes time. And I'm learning things along the way and meeting incredible women like Dallas, being able to go to networking events, um, the blogging events. That's where I met. I've met Lauren once at a blogger event, not with the blogger union, another can't remember now. But yes. And, um, and then when I saw you were doing that, and she was in charge, she's very charismatic. She's, yes, yeah. So yeah, it's just amazing that, you know, if you get out of your comfort zone, and I'm sure you would agree with Dallas, like going to different things, um, you get to explore who you are yourself and learn things you never knew.

Odalys: 32:17

100%, like, all you have to do is think I want to do this, and surround yourself with the people who want similar things. And it's going to happen, it's going to happen for you, of course, you have to put in the time, and the effort to make it happen. But you just have to think like shift that mindset and say, Yes, I can do it. And, and get yourself out there, surround yourself with new people, people that think the same as you, or who are driven by the same things as you. Um, I encourage everyone to go back to the Pinup Miami podcast, the previous episode, and listen to Jennifer's experience at her previous job, and just see how far she's come. See how far she's come? Because a couple of months? Yes. And it's such a journey, right? Some people, it takes them years, and it's fine. It's just a seeing that there's an opportunity somewhere else that you can grow as a person. And it takes some big steps. It takes really big steps. And you have to just gather all your courage, get all your ducks in a row, and go for it. Because Yeah,

Miss Pinup Miami: 33:35

it's for me, for example, like with this new job, again, like I said, like I had a very lenient schedule, because I was there for so long. And I do host a lot of events, and I'm out of town. So I have to make some sacrifices. And it's all about, like you said, mentality now. So now I have to really take care of my time. So I have to schedule everything, I have to make sure that I have time because in my head, I want to do so much. But the only way that I'll do a lot is if I'm organized. So it took me a couple. That's why I said and I keep saying that I'm still crawling out because I'm figuring it out. Like this is all new. And everything that I've done from the zoo, to the pinup meetups, to my blog, to my YouTube to this podcast, to the workshops that I do that I used to travel that I hope they'll be up by hosting events. I want to do it all because that is really my passion, but I need something to fuel it, which is my job. But now I have a job that I enjoy that intertwines with everything that will help me for my next goal. So it's just it's just the I guess it's just the motivation that you have and that ambition and fire and keeping it you know, in the and that's with everything in life and I encourage people not to get discouraged. It's hard. I mean, there's some moments I'm sure you've had that you're like, I want to do this up but how can I I can't do it and then you know, then reached out to you. And then that gave you the boost to like, for me, it's the people that listen, the people that comments or people that come to my events like, you guys are the ones that really motivate me and have kept me above because it means that I'm doing that what I do mean something for people, and I'm motivating, like, even though Dallas right now you're telling me about your eye makeup. I know it's something so simple that some people might think, oh, shoot, it's just makeup. But that little boost of confidence will help you like walk down the street a little higher, you know, things like that, that I really want to impact in people's lives.

Odalys: 35:34

Yeah, for sure. I mean, you did it for me to like, these earrings a friend of mine made for me. We are m Massey. She, um, she's one of the people I interviewed when I first started on my mompreneur journey. And she was the one who told me organization is like 90% of my job as a mom. And as a mompreneur making her jewelry. And you're absolutely 100% right, one of the hardest parts of being an entrepreneur is balancing everything, right? You the way you sound like the way you said that, that I have to like organize my schedule a lot better now that I have a job. It's like, that's exactly what being a mom is. It's like you have the kids, you have the work. And then you have like, like me, I have a lot of side hustles to write, I have my blog, I have copywriting I have BMC. And I have women for success. So when you're juggling all those things, you need to put that into perspective. Another huge thing that helped me when I was starting out was those mom boss series interviews that I was doing. I thought to myself, how can I learn from other mob bosses while also giving back to them in the best way that I could. And at that time, I was like, You know what, I'm going to interview them, put them on my blog, they get exposure for their business. And I learned from them at the same time. It's all about giving, and taking, but making it equal. That's the thing. It's like it's not all tick, tick, tick. It's all just a huge back and forth. And like you said, Your, your audience fuels you, the people who listen, the people who come out to your events. They're such huge, huge support. Because when I first started blogging, I had like this little Instagram account, I remember I had maybe 20. And then I started getting connections with people that I didn't know in person. And they started commenting on my stuff and getting interested and it's if you will you it really does just any any kind of support, whether it's a like on an Instagram photo, whether it's a comment on your blog, or whether it's a review on Apple podcasts, all that. Right, and he kind of help it fuels you and being able to give back in a way like, um, is just amazing. Like we did, we did that YouTube episode where you gave me the makeover, a mommy, mommy makeover, and I loved it. I loved it, it really did a lot for my confidence. And it helped me It helped put me in a place where like, I could present myself more confidently and more uniquely me. Because I don't know, my fashion sense has always been like more traditional. But now like that you inspired me with the retro flair on like, Oh my gosh, I could do like modern traditional kind of Milan, like a mix. And I just love it so much. And so yeah, you had a huge impact on my fashion sense. resin earrings are like my favorite thing in the world now. So anyway, it's just when you surround yourself with the right people, and you get the right kind of audience and supporters. It just all comes together and you you succeed. Obviously you have to put in the work in the effort. But yeah, you it all just comes together so so perfectly. And I'm so like, I have to say I'm so happy that you went and you like apply for that job and you're doing what you love and so being each other's cheerleaders, that's another big thing.

Miss Pinup Miami: 39:25

Yes. Oh god. And I have a question. Um, what if somebody listening knows a mompreneur or is a mompreneur and they are interested in reaching out to you? Can they they dm you on Instagram? or How can they get in contact with you?

Odalys: 39:43

That's a great question. Um, you we are on Instagram at virtual mom collective calm. I'm sorry, Instagram, we don't have the.com and Instagram. We do have the website which is virtual mock collective calm and we have Have the Instagram virtual mom collective. So just yeah DMS at us, whatever. We have a we have a raw motherhood series where we talk about the not so pretty side of being a mom and sometimes the Joyce, just like the raw feelings that come with being a mom. So if you want to post for raw motherhood, we have that hashtag. But yeah, Instagram is probably the best way to get in touch with us.

Miss Pinup Miami: 40:29

I will Dallas I want to say big thank you for being on the pig podcast because you're definitely a modern woman with a vintage flair. Thank you. And before we go, do you have any questions you want to ask me I always ask every guest if they have a question. Question.

Odalys: 40:47

Oh my gosh, I don't know if you've shared this on your podcast or if you're willing to but I asked you. I asked you when I was getting my pinup makeover, what inspired you to get into pinup fashion and life?

Miss Pinup Miami: 41:03

For me, I said it. I'm with you. I think it was the same answer. But it was my grandmother. Um, I used to love watching her getting dressed. Um, just to go to the market. She always had her rollers on her hair was orange. I mean, I think that's normal for like older Cuban, they had like that orangey red hair. And she always had her nails long and orange. And she was always like, she didn't care what anybody had to say. And she just had that confidence. You know, even until like her last day, she couldn't be at the hospital without her nails done or something. So it's it was really, it was really inspiring to just be yourself. You know, in the last I know, I'm not like old, but in my short life so far. I've learned, you know, that, like, life is too short. And I used to be shy. I mean, I'm still shy about some things like not gonna lie when I went to the the, the meetup, the women for success, um, I was nervous. I'm now looking back. I was like, I wish I wasn't so nervous. I wish I had talked to more people. And I'm slowly learning that, like, if I don't do it, now, I'm never gonna do it. So I'm trying to keep that in mind whenever I'm nervous or a little, you know, like, even with this new job, I'm taking it with a new perspective of like, you know, if I don't, if I release, try, then I won't know. And then I'm going to live in regrets. And then it's like, because I know that a lot of people say I have confidence. But there are certain things in my life that I'm just like, not confident about, like in the sense of like that I'm just nervous to do. And I'm just trying to think Yo, yo, for real. Like, like, if I don't try it, I'm never going to know and then next week, I'm going to be like, Oh, if I would have done that, then maybe this or even with my podcast guests. Like there's certain guests on here that I never thought I would have like besame Cosmetics, I had the founder. And I was like, I was nervous even reach out. But it It worked that like it was you never know if you don't try. That's the thing. Yeah, somebody told me once. What's the worst they can say? No. Yeah, right. nobody's doing it. Hopefully, nobody's gonna do anything worse than that. So yeah, that's just one thing. I always try to tell people, you know, and I and we all suffer from it, too. So that's why I remind myself to and I say it out loud to remind myself. Well, Dallas, thank you so much for being on today's episode. It means so much to me. And you guys listening. Thank you again. And like Dallas mentioned in the middle of this podcast. If you want to leave an apple review, any review, I would really appreciate it. And stay beautiful. Stay safe. And I hope to see you all real soon. And listen to you and come in. Come in. Listen in next week. Bye.